How to Use This Book

Section One: Self-as-Construct: (Or, You Built Who You Are So You Can Remodel Yourself)

Chapter 1: It's All About You (But Then Again, It's Not Really)
Chapter 2: Your Personality - Friend or Enemy? (The Answer Is Yes!)
Chapter 3: Your Family of Origin (Hopefully) Doesn't Work Here - Getting the Patterns of the Past Out of the Present


Section Two: Self-Talk - Changing the Invisible Ways in Which We Sustain Our Own Delicious Delusions

Chapter 4: How Dare Your Speak to Yourself Like That? Examining Our Internal Dialogue
Chapter 5: Go Ahead and Worry - It Will Solve Everything
Chapter 6: But What About Time Management? (How About Energy Management Instead?)


Section Three Self-in-Relationship - You Mean I Have to Play Well with Others?

Chapter 7: Really? That's What You Meant? - The Importance of Shared Definitions, Expectations, and Assumptions
Chapter 8: We'd Have a Great Relationship If It Weren't for You - The Temptation to Blame
Chapter 9: A Middle Path between Avoidance and Aggressiveness - The Art of Supportive Confrontation


Section Four: Self-at-Work - Tools Are Good, but Just Having a Nice Set of Screwdrivers Won't Cut It

Chapter 10: A Seesaw of Effectiveness - Balancing Tasks and Relationships
Chapter 11: Clear, Useful Power - The Difference between Authoritative and Authoritarian
Chapter 12: How to Achieve More by Engaging Less (Or, "Boundaries R Me")


Section Five: Self-in-Organizational-Life - Why Are All of Us Crazier Than Any of Us?

Chapter 13: Workplace as Yogurt - Chock-Full of Active Cultures
Chapter 14: Bureaucracy, Bullshit, and Other Barriers - How to Deal with Unnecessary Energy Drains
Chapter 15: Cluster Pluck - Finding the Courage and Tools to Get Better Outcomes in Group Settings


Section Six: Self-in-a-Larger-Sphere - Your Own Big Picture

Chapter 16: Don't Let Money Drive the Boat ('Cause You'll End Up Sinking)
Chapter 17: Rockin' Your Roles - Balancing a 360-Degree View of All You Do
Chapter 18: Compassionately Engaged, but Not Entangled - The Rewards of Healthy Detachment


Section Seven: Not-Self - Connecting with Something Bigger Than Your Singular Soul

Chapter 19: As Mr. Dylan Said, "You Gotta Serve Somebody"
Chapter 20: Your Mother Was Right When She Said "Go Play Outside" - The Beneficial Effects of Being in Nature
Chapter 21: Connection to Spirit and the Sacred Mystery - You're Part of It, So Why Not Honor It?


Section Eight: Balancing Self, Others, Work, and Life - Putting It All Reasonably Together

Chapter 22: Call It What You Will, It Takes Practice (So You Have to Have a Practice)
Chapter 23: The Daily Integration of Our Inevitable Exit (Or, There are Lots of Things Worse Than Dying)
Chapter 24: Sustained Basic Goodness - How to Amaze and Delight Yourself as You Enjoy the Passage of Time

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